Having been in a long distance relationship for the longest time, one would think that I have gotten used to our ‘far away love’. But honestly, no immunity comes from being in a long distance relationship.
No amount of telephone calls, “Skyping”and “WhatsApping” can compensate the absence of your spouse. The lack of face to face conversations, going for dates, cuddling, playing mind games while stuck in the Nairobi traffic and generally hanging out together can take a huge toll on oneself. Both of you end up feeling lonely especially when you need a shoulder to lean on. Its even worse when you see couples spending time together, that is when your heart really sinks to the ground in sadness.
Over the years, Shaq and I have always tried to make the best out of the little time we get while he is home on leave. Most, if not all the time, am usually working so he deprives his morning sleep to drive me to work. He makes sure that I carry my breakfast, since am a poor morning eater and over lunch hour he will either take me out to have lunch or he would bring lunch and we’d seat in the car catching up while enjoying our lunch.
My friends always complain that when he is around, I never have time for them and I equally don’t answer or respond to text messages the same way I do when he is not around. Usually, am the one who chats them up so when the text and phone calls stop coming they know that his around and they look for me through him. Hahaha…
At times, I get jealous when family and friends call him up to help them cook up a meal or when they want to feast on his tasty food. This always happens over the weekend and that’s the only time I get to have a full day with him. It always like they are robbing my time with him but my consolation is yummy food and great company because it usually happens at our home or out doors where we can have a nice picnic.(Karura Forest was really nice)
When he goes back to work and am left with my two little companions Zein (our dog) and Zeus (our cat). The mood in the house is never the same though I have learnt to embrace our life the way it is. I avoid being lonely by quickly connecting with my family and friends, and I thank God that my best friend is my neighbour, so when I do not have supper and I feel like chatting, I know I have an open invitation to a good meal and an easy conversation.
We have learn’t to make merry with our situation by sharing our day-to-day happenings in our different environments. When am shopping or out with friends and family I send him photos and he feels nice that I involve him in my activities. Most of the time, I will put him on loudspeaker so that he can receive some love from our common friends and family. They throw in a few jokes and to hear him laugh makes me feel happy. His day is usually made when he hears familiar voices. The hugs and kisses he gets through the phone completes his day.
The one therapeutic way of celebrating our love is through listening to our favorite love songs on radio while driving. I always find myself singing out loud as I reminisce the good times we have when we are together. All these beautiful pictures come to mind and I always feel complete as though he was seating right there next to me listening to me as I sing my heart away…
For those of you who are in long distance relationship like me, find your own special ways of flaming your love and keeping it alive. Remember True Love wins no matter the circumstance. So cheer up.
Meghan Trainor ft John Legend – Like I’m Gonna Lose
Ciara – Dance Like We’re Making Love
Wale ft Usher – Matrinomy
Omi – Cheerleader
Ed Sheeran – Thinking Out Loud (Our current favorite and the song I walked down the Aisle with)